Trauma |
TraumaHave you been traumatised?We all know what traumatic experiences are, and the vast majority of us have survived at least one traumatic experience in our lives. No one can tell another person what a traumatic experience should look like, or what that person should or should not be feeling or thinking about the experience. The simple fact is that if you are having strong thoughts and/or feelings about an experience, then you have been traumatised to some extent by the experience. If you are not experiencing these thoughts and/or feelings then you may not have been traumatised by the event.
However, if you are not having thoughts and/or feelings about an event that might normally be considered traumatising, you may currently be in shock and may have these thoughts and/or feelings later. If you find that you are not dealing with feelings about this trauma, don’t be alarmed or feel that you have missed something. Your mind is simply waiting for a time when you might be more ready to process it. When it does come up it will tend to feel like it just happened and you will have the opportunity to deal with the issues then. Remember that you don’t have to be a victim, or even a witness, to be traumatised by an event.
What is psychological trauma?Psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and alone can be traumatic, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective facts that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatised.
Psychological trauma can be caused by single-blow, one-time events, such as a horrible accident, a natural disaster, or a violent attack. However, it can also stem from ongoing, relentless high- or low-grade stress, such as living in a crime-ridden neighbourhood or struggling with cancer or other chronic illness.
A stressful event is most likely to be traumatic if:
Symptoms of traumatisationIf you experience one or more of the following in relation to a single stressor or series of stressors, then you may be traumatised:
Emotional symptoms
Physical symptoms
Childhood trauma increases the risk of future traumaTraumatic experiences in childhood can have a severe and long-lasting effect. Children who have been traumatised see the world as a frightening and dangerous place. When childhood trauma is not resolved, this fundamental sense of fear and helplessness carries over into adulthood, setting the stage for further trauma. Childhood trauma results from anything that disrupts a child’s sense of safety and security, including:
Do you need professional help?Professional help is often a good idea if:
Of course, some people who undergo traumas make the choice to see a professional at this point not because they are unable to recover from the trauma, or are suffering unusual levels of distress as a result of it, but because they recognise the event as a critical moment that presents them with an opportunity to grow. Trauma (and indeed any life crisis) presents us with information as to how well we are functioning under pressure. Do we have the friends and other social resources to aid us in these times, and do we feel confident and transparent enough to be able to utilise them? Sometimes these events can trigger depressive episodes, old memories, existential crises or chinks in relationships that people choose to address in order to grow in their lives and to evolve more adaptive coping skills.
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